Sometimes being a parent is just plain hard. Like break your heart hard. Like you hate seeing your kids sad and struggling hard.
And sometimes I worry about my kids having to be raised in this crazy messed up world.
Sometimes I just want to make sure my kids are living in the world but not of the world. That they're aware of the things going on around them but realize that they are not the best things for them.
Really, I just want my kids to be kids.
I want them to be sad because they messed up their toe while kicking a soccer ball with their barefoot and now it hurts to walk and ride their scooter.
Not because they're getting a new teacher because their teacher had an inappropriate relationship with an adolescent girl.
Ten year olds shouldn't have to worry about that kind of stuff.
They also shouldn't hear about this kind of stuff from their peers.
So gulp...we're going to have to suck it up and do the hard job of parenting.
Any suggestions?
3.31.2010
Hard Things
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On days like this, I like to remind myself that at least we have indoor plumbing and the right to vote. If I'm really feeling terrified of the world, I reread Amy Tan's The Kitchen God's Wife and thank my lucky stars that I wasn't born a woman in China before WWII. That all makes up for a lot of the crap we have to put up with in today's world...
Sorry you have to deal with this, though. That's truly dreadful.
It was easier when my kids were younger. At least I could shelter them. Not long after Audrey started Public School, Barbie & Ken (her dolls), started hitting each other and they were divorcing!!! Audrey's eyes were opened. She heard other kids' stories about their Moms and Dads. Andrew in Middle School, is another story. There are days that make me sad! All I could think of is: Nobody told me it's hard to be a Mom!
I feel the same way you do. Everywhere you go and everywhere you look there is some sort of reminder that this is a scary world. I am so grateful for the gospel in helping us understand how to raise these little innocent spirits. It is sad when they start coming home with 'things' they shouldn't have to deal with. And even though it is a part of growing up how do we protect them without sheltering them?
Wow, that is truly disturbing. I'm sorry you have to deal with that. No words of advice, as I've never had to explain something like that, but I know you guys are fab parents and Tyler will be okay.
Wow, that is a tough one. 10 seems like a hard age because they're probably old enough to know something like "he made some bad choices" isn't telling the whole story, but young enough to not want them to have to let the whole story into their consciousness yet. He's lucky to have great parents who will know the right thing to say.
This is something I've been thinking about a lot lately. I really want my kids to be innocent, but I don't want them to be nieve. So when do we start talking to them about what IS inappropriate?
That is so tough. It's something as parents we all think about. I guess life wasn't meant to be easy, but I sure wish it was. Or at least I wish we could shield our children from the evils of this world. You are right, a 10 year old should not have to deal with such an issue. Good luck. Sending you my sympathy and prayers from Utah.
Eeeewwww...that's all I can say.
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